i know that many of you who read this blog are women living in a society/culture that is being radically transformed by the mainstreaming/mass availability of porn. i’m really interested in your opinions of this article posted on x3watch.com.
however, i think it’s an important read for the fellas out there, too. how have you bought into this game of victim to victimizer? does your objectification of others prevent you from experiencing intimacy?
when i read this, i realized just how much of a daily battle it is to fight/cleanse ourselves of the continuous bombardment of objectification of others. on a much broader (than porn) scale. “what can this person do for me?” “how can they serve my ends?”
this is leading me on a tangent, but i think it’s worthwhile to consider: why is it so hard for us to be genuinely happy for others when they succeed/are blessed/etc.? i know that wishing failure on someone else brings me no happiness. i know that being bitter toward someone else’s good fortune will only leave me more desperate and unfulfilled. how can i move to a place of true happiness and fulfillment where i am equally or more excited for others than they are for themselves?
i think this is slowly happening for me. and i don’t think it’s a coincidence that it’s growing as i’m moving away from an addiction built on the objectification of others.
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What a great article. She humanizes these men who are misusing sex and asks them–”who hurt you?”. She is trying to get to the core of the issue. Problem is, the issue is so big…and overwhelming…I also love that she encourages guys to get free because we need REAL MEN in the world today.
I like this part…
“If you’re a guy reading this, I just want to send a verbal hug with this same message. Whoever hurt you to the point that you are oozing and spewing your pain onto the lives of others, you too can be healed, you too can be changed, you too can be restored. Sex, for you as well, doesn’t have to be some wild, random act of passion with some anonymous body parts. You, as I, a survivor of abuse and neglect, can receive the true purpose of sex: intimacy. You deserve the right to know and be known, not just for what you have, but who you are beyond the bedroom, beyond the rap songs, beyond pop culture and its demented sense of reality.”